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UNDERSTANDING
OTHER PEOPLE'S BEHAVIOR CAN MAKE YOUR THANKSGIVING
MORE INTERESTING --and in some cases, more tolerable!
So you’re sitting around
the living room on Thanksgiving Day with all your favorite relatives. But wait: who let in those annoying relatives,
the ones that criticize your cooking, how you raise your children, or the
fact that they don’t hear from you often enough. Who else pushes your buttons? The loud uncle who only talks about himself? Your clingy niece? The cold sister-in-law? And how come you gravitate to the gentle
cousin who is always interested in YOU???
Every day we have an
opportunity to learn about people.
If we understand why we act the way we act, and why others act the
way they act, it can transform our relationships!
I work with a learning
assessment called DISC. While there
are over 19,000 identifiable behavior styles, there are four main
categories of behavior:
Dominant (D) Influencer (I) Supportive (S) and Compliant (C) . While we may favor one category, most of us are blends of two
or more styles.
Once we learn the behavioral styles we can quickly identify a person’s core
behavior and learn to adapt our behavior to communicate more effectively
with them. It can transform both
personal and professional behaviors.
Professionally, learning DISC can make you a better and
more productive leader, seller, team member, manager---whatever you
do, you can do it more effectively.
For your DISC
assessment and two hour debrief , contact: harvey@carolinabusinesscoach.com or call for your appointment 704-604-1655.
NEWS: Harvey Smith has just been elected President of
the International Coach Federation's Charlotte Area Chapter for
2006.
NEWS: Harvey
has just returned from the International Coach Federation annual conference
in San Diego, where over 1700 coaches from around the world gathered
together for three days. The keynote speaker was life coach Cheryl
Richardson, known for her frequent appearances on the Oprah Show's Life
Makeover series.
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"At times our own light goes out
and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to
think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within
us." Albert Schweitzer
10 Things I am Grateful for this
Thanksgiving.
- I am thankful for
all new lessons that I have learned this year, both good and bad. I no longer refer to ‘negative’
experiences as ‘negative’, but as challenges. The challenges teach me the most.
- I am grateful for
people who are committed to their work and do it well. It offers me a world of information,
so that I can dip into a pool of expertise and knowledge without
having to know it all.
- I express thanks
for the opportunity to collaborate with others in my profession. Sharing information with others
gives me wise perspectives that I might not have otherwise seen.
- Thankfulness
comes when I think of the daily the support of family, friends,
suppliers, coworkers and the great people who make my iced coffee just
the way I like it before my meetings.
Each of them makes a contribution to my life.
- I am grateful for
the ability to live in the moment—to really understand what this
means—and to know that each moment holds an opportunity to move
forward or create something new.
- I appreciate and
accept that we cannot change other people, but we can change our
perspective by realizing that we all approach things differently.
- The older I get,
the more I am thankful for feeling good physically. I am especially aware of all the
times my physical body forgives me for overindulgences, especially
this time of year.
- I am thankful
that I have pushed myself to grow, even when my life seemed
overflowing with responsibilities.
Taking courses, joining groups, donating time, and feeding my
brain with good reading, has been rewarding.
- I am grateful for
my clients. The great ones,
the good ones, the long term ones, and the ones that I will have in
the future. As for the
difficult clients, they, too, have been great teachers, pushing me to
dig deeper.
10. I am thankful that I
can choose my emotions. For
example, his year my wife brought in a rescue foster dog who decided
that our house had many things that she enjoyed chewing on, like upholstery
and rugs. With each new
offense, I could have become upset;
instead I made the choice to be patient and empathetic with the dog’s
stress, and to find something amusing about the daily adventures.
I am thankful that you read my newsletters, too!
Have a very Happy Thanksgiving feast.
HARVEY SMiTH
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